Don't trust the post office

Well I'm sorry to say there has been another setback.  A few weeks ago we sent our final paperwork into the agency.  This was to be the last of our preliminary paperwork including those medical forms we did and re-did quite a few times as well as a LARGE personal check to the agency and who knows what all.  The next step after these papers was up to the agency and we had a hard time adjusting to this process finally being out of our hands and up to someone else to take it and run with it.  But oh what a RELIEF  to be just waiting and excitedly imagining how things are going!  Reuben mentioned a few times that the check he wrote still hadn't cleared and he wondered why.  We let it go for a while thinking that they must be sooo busy working on our stuff the just hadn't thought to cash it yet.  Last week Reuben finally got suspicious and e-mailed the agency.   To our horror they said the never received a thing!  Our precious packet of final paperwork is officially lost in the mail!  We are crushed to say the least.  It took me a while to even be able to write this blog post.  We have lost at least 4-5 weeks in our adoption process not to mention having to re-do some papers including the infamous medical forms!ahhhhh  Can this really be happening??  Don't worry we canceled that check.  So you may be asking yourself why we aren't trying to track that package.  Well unfortunately in his hurry to get that mailed Reuben said "priority"  instead of "certified" when he mailed it and the promptly lost the receipt he got.  Oh well we all make mistakes.  So back to the paperwork.  We just decided we need to just get over the shock and get back to it.  I really don't like seeming like a negative Nellie on this blog and it was never meant to be a place to vent or complain but at the same time I want it to be"real" and this process is not always happy happy happy so I hope you all will bear with me as I hope to have positive things to say soon!  Thank you all for your prayers for us through this crazy but worth it ride!

a bit discouraged...

Hello to everyone on this cloudy, but relaxing Tuesday afternoon.   I am sorry to say that I am feeling just a little bit discouraged about our adoption process today.   We got a copy of our homestudy in the mail the other day for us to read and sign and realized there were quite a few errors in it.  Reuben and I went through and fixed everything and let the agency know, no biggie right?  Right.  We also got OUR medical exam sheets back AGAIN with some missing or mixed up information that needed fixed.  We fixed that.  So Reuben talked to the lady from the agency today who is helping us with the dossier process and we realized that it's looking like its going to be towards the middle or even end of January until we are ready to send our dossier to China!  It takes 2-3 months after that to get logged in with China and then we can officially start waiting.  So I start doing the math.  I'm thinking to myself that it could technically be another year until we travel to get our little one! What!  And that is why I'm discouraged.  But I remind myself that God's timing is perfect and we keep saying we are not in a hurry anyway.  We need time to get the financial end of this in order so what am I freaking out about.  Just being impatient I guess:)  On a happier note we have been checking out some travel tips from other families who have adopted from China and got some good ideas!  Like what to bring lots of and what not to worry about because it's easy to get over there or you don't really need it.  If any of you have travel tips you'd like to share with us please do!  Send it to facebook or e-mail me:)  Also we would appreciate your prayers for us during this exciting but trying time.  There are so many ups and downs through all of this.  I hope Reuben will start working on the baby's room soon so maybe I will figure out how to post some pics.  He is also planning on building a super cute toy box!  Can't wait!!! 

A very interesting weekend.

Well I've been itching to write an update on our blog but to be honest I didnt really have any updates to report! But, Reuben and I went to Ravenna over the weekend to have our adoption training classes.  It was Saturday from 8:45am to 5:00pm with a lunch break and Sunday from 8:45am to 1:00pm.  We heard so much good information I don't know where to start and what to share and what not to share.  The main thing that sticks out in my mind I guess was the information on bonding and attachment especially in the first days and weeks after getting home from China.  The social workers from the agency couldn't get done saying how important it is to have family time for those weeks and to "hibernate" as they put it avoiding lots of visitors and comotion.  As you can imagine social workers are not very popular with Grandparents and other family members! ha They also told us not to push our child toward independence or doing things like giving up bottles and potty training and just let them be a baby and even regress if necessary.  Also the importance of an adoption clinic vs a regular pediatrition.  Today we got to hear from a birth mother who gave her baby up for adoption when she was fifteen and also a couple who adopted two girls from China.  All in all it was soooo interesting however it was a lot of information to process so I may update with thoughts or if I remember something I want to share.  Well to say the least I'm exhasted so until another time...

Everythings coming together:)

                                       Once again its been quite a while since my last entry.   We have finished our part of our homestudy except for Reuben needing to email the dog's shot records to the social worker.  I'm so relieved that the interview stuff is officially done as far as I know!  We recieved the paperwork for our Dossier a couple weeks ago and are working on that.  A lot of what we did for our formal application carries over to the Dossier so that is nice!  I had to write a letter of intent to the Chinese Goverment saying that we will not abuse or abandon the child and such, I totally procrastinated on that but finally wrote it tonight in about five minutes.  We both applied for and recieved our passports in the mail. yay!  So we are reallly hoping that by monday we could be prettty much ready to send in our papers to the adgency:)  Next step, waiting to get logged in with China and after we are logged in we are officailly "waiting"  for a child to be reffered to us!  Sorry if a lost anyone with all this mumbo jumbo. Ha, just wanted to give an update.  It's definetly starting to feel more real :D

moving along...slowly

               Happy sunday evening!  I'm enjoying the last couple of hours before bed and then three days of work in a row:(  We have been seeing all these American couples with Asian children lately!  Its so neat to see them at different ages and wonder what our child will look like!  Since I last blogged we have each done our individual homestudies and are waiting on our final session which will be on September14th!  If I understand right Vicki, our caseworker will have our complete homestudy typed up and ready.  We also visited an adoption clinic in Akron Childrens Hospital and talked to a Dr. Kempf who will examine our child within a week or so of returning from China depending on what medical need our child has.  For those of you that don't know we are planning on going with a special needs child.  We are hoping for something mild or correctable but we know that God is in control!  We talked with Dr. Kempf about some medical conditions that we would be willing to consider.  She was very helpful by just helpng us to understand excactly what some of the conditions consist of.  So other than that we have been doing alot of reading that is required, and probably for good reason.  Some of the things we read are not so rosey and its easy to get discouraged but we are just trying to be realistic but yet optamistic about what to expect:)  Oh and also...we pretty much have our names picked out for the baby!  Buuuuut... it's a secret:)  I feel like I should be doing something else to get prepared, like starting on the child's room, or buying a diaper bag, or toys, or something!  But the reality is, we don't kmow if it will be a boy or a girl or even what age the child will be, so until we get the refferal I REALLY can't do too much:(  Well I'll keep you all informed of any progress but as you can see we are moving along...slowly!

many things to remember

Well ever since our first home study I've had so many things to think about!  It's amazing the questions the social worker asks,  some I hadnt even thought about.  Who is gonna be your pediatritian, life insurance for the baby etc.  It's definetly sent my mind into a tailspin thinking of all the things we need to do.  Reuben and I have been talking names again also, I never realized what a responsibility naming some one is!  Wow, our child has to live with this name forever!  Not as easy as i thought:)  I had at least one night that I didnt sleep very well thinking of what China is gonna be like.  The social worker gave us a stack of DVD's to watch and one of them is called " China's lost girls"  It was so good!  It's a documentary by Lisa Ling and she follows a group of American couples to China to get thier babies and disscuses some issues such as the one child policy with the Chinese people.  It made the journey and what it will be like so much more real.  Very exciting!!!  So for right now we are working on getting the reading done we need to do and watching these dvds and trying to soak up and remember all of this info.  My next homestudy is the ninteenth and Reubens is the twentieth.  I also have to get another letter from the doctor concerning my medical problems and work on a long list of names of proffesionals we will use for the baby.  I just keep reminding my self that every little thing is one step closer to meeting our little one;) 

An awesome adventure

So this is my first atempt at blogging so bear with me for a while!  I wanted a way to share this journey we are on with everyone.  Reuben and I decided sometime in March or April that we wanted to pursue adoption once again. A few years a go we had a major let down with trying to adopt throught the foster care system.  Due to a situation beyond our control our lives were turned upside down and we decided not to continue with our foster care liscence.  It took a few years of healing, especially for me, before I was ready to try again.  We looked into different ways of adopting and decided that the china special needs program was a good fit!  So as of now we have submitted our formal application and had our first homestudy visit. I have to say that I knew this is a very long and detailed process going into this but it is definetly more than I realized!  I know in the end it will all be worth it so we just press on even though I feel very overwhelmed and frankly like I dont have a clue what I'm doing most of the time.  I'm very proud of Reuben for really stepping up and taking the reigns with this:)  I hope to be able to blog through every step of this journey to becoming parents!